When we are referring to topics like "relating to women", or "how to relate to women" or "Can you relate to women?", I usually get asked about the simplest way to start getting physical with a girl that you have known as a pal for awhile.
Getting physical is one thing that usually occurs naturally between a man and a woman over a three month period unless one or both of them is really uncomfortable on disinterested.
When a man is uncomfortable with approaching a girl for a physical relationship, the main thing that a man can do to handle that is learn how to observe and make use of gradients.
What are gradients? Gradients are just like steps on a ladder that you climb to get to the top. Some guys may try to head to the top level of the ladder without ascending any of the steps. And that makes the girl uneasy and also the guy.
A guy who is uncomfortable in this area ought to learn both how to identify gradients when women use them and how to use gradients on women.
Not every woman will start at the same gradient. A few girls will start with a kiss after a first date, and proceed gradually or rapidly from there - from kissing, to making out, to petting, to heavy petting and finally to sexual relations. If a man tries to leap to the "sexual relations" step without going through the other gradients, he may just lose the girl. On the other hand, you can lose a girl as you are moving up the gradients too slowly.
Now other women won't even be up to the gradient of giving you a goodnight kiss till the seventh date. Gradients for her could be: getting to know you, speaking about sexual subjects indirectly (for example commiserating regarding an ex-boyfriend), accidental touch (clashing with you as you go walking), purposeful little touches to your arm or leg, holding onto your arm as you stroll, holding your hand, and then a goodnight kiss.
If you are uncomfortable with this area and want to get physical with a girl, flirt with her, romance her, notice where she is on the gradients of sexual contact, then take her up the gradients gently. So long as you don't skip too many gradients, if she is interested, she will move up the gradients quickly or slowly depending on her persona.
If she is not interested, she probably won't budge. Try lowering the gradient and if she still doesn't budge, try talking about it. Ask her if she is serious about a relationship with you or if she only wants to be good friends.
Also remember that most girls won't go out on a "date" with you unless they are already vaguely fine with the concept of getting physical with you. Therefore you might want to clarify if you are dating or just "hanging out."
Getting Intimate With A Girl
